You know when you must change directions on the path when you have come to a place in your life when you no longer feel you should be there, then that is the time to change things up. You must take a good long hard look at where you have been, where you thought you were going and where it is you now want to be.
The people who love and support you, will do just that, support you! Those who are afraid of their own truths and can’t find a way out of there nothingness will be the ones who try to push on you what they are doing and what they want you to be doing rather than support any choice you make regarding YOUR life.
Many of us approach the way we want to change things in some completely wrong ways and we may hurt people in doing so, because we didn’t know any other way of getting out, but that is for you to live with and learn from and not for others to point their fingers at you for it.
These people need to have fingers pointed right back at them.Then again they may like the drama that goes with you pointing out their shit, because it is something to do now for them and they thrive on it. So just try to forget those people, they are not beneficial to your life in any way.
If you have people in your life that constantly want a pity party about what is going on in there lives, you are best off distancing yourself from these people because they will only drain you of energy and time that could be spent on bettering yourself.
These are the people who complain about everything in their lives, they take no responsibility for where they have ended up and are not willing to have it any other way, even if you take their hand and show them how to change things around for themselves, they like the pity and drama that goes along with being right where they are so why would they give that up right?
It is a waste of time my friend, it really is. Just another wall to hit your head against and it will give you nothing but pain.
The people who are happy being washed up in their substance forever more are the same way, they will never change the way they live even if they don’t want to be there. They will continually want things from you but will never help you out when you need it, it’s always about them period. Move on because these people will suck the life out of you.
If you are ready and willing to change, then these are the people to avoid at all costs. If they are family members it may be a little harder to do, but for your own mental health you must distance yourself, you have to.
NEVER let anyone beat you up for the mistakes you have made, these are what brought you to where you are right now and the scars you have prove this to be true. You can not control what people say or do, but you can control what and who gets in.
Change is very hard, it isn't easy, this is due to fear. We all have it and it will bite you in the ass more than once or twice, but if you want something so badly you will be willing to fight your way to get it. You will slip and fall and you will get hurt at times, you may even hurt others, but this is a natural part of trying to overcome a fear so strong. Some never conquer this fear, so if you are in the midst of change right now, good for you, as it has been known to take down the strongest of people!
Keep your head held high no matter what and remember to try and focus on what you have done that is good not the negative stuff your mind will try to throw at you or what people may say to hold you back from where you want to be going!
Remember that recovery is like a maze and you never know what will be around the next corner, so be prepared and if you slip, it is okay, as long as you don't ever give up you will make it to the end!